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Dee's avatar

I stumbled upon your substack and hope you don’t mind if a woman weighs in on one point that you mentioned. I think there ARE good reasons for a young woman to date young men. When I was young and single I exclusively dated men close to my age, and eventually married one who is slightly younger than me. I had zero interest in older men. In hindsight, I think this was because I was very motivated to have a balanced distribution of power in the relationship - I felt an older man would expect to dominate me, or expect me to perform a role I wasn’t comfortable with instead of allowing me to be genuine and an equal partner. Plus I think women have the same reason as men for preferring a young partner - simple physical attractiveness. Younger men also may be less set in their ways and it may be easier to form a partnership without the woman being expected to do all the accommodating - you can decide together where to live, how to build a life, because neither of you is completely settled yet. Maybe younger men appeal to women who place a lot of value on independence.

Just food for thought! I enjoyed reading and there’s a lot of truth to your approach

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Agreed with Brian and the others who said you should read The Game, it's pretty fucked up although it's written with more sympathy for the girls/women than Strauss had as a pickup artist as he'd begun to realize what he was doing. Also, he's a really good journalist - he's written for Playboy, Esquire, Rolling Stone, and other magazines.

Not ALL women are hypergamous. I wasn't, although I knew many young women in the '80s who were. I may have been among the few who recognized that older, rich men like young women not just because of their youth and beauty but because they're so malleable - more easily controlled, especially if he pays for everything.

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